1) After first meeting my future husband, she starts undressing in front of him and when he asked if he should leave she responds, "Oops I forgot you were sitting here."
2) After announcing my engagement she acts cold and unsupportive. She tells me she’s just not that into weddings (meanwhile she and her mother have been dreaming of her getting married for years).
3) Admits to getting drunk with her Mom while the two of them make fun of my wedding.
3) Complains that she won’t look pretty in her bridesmaid dress and spends the evening after the trip to the bridal salon crying and bitching about another bridesmaid because her dress was a smaller size.
5) Gives me a wedding gift DVD about a dysfunctional family that runs a funeral home. Then tells me I’m ungrateful when I become shocked and offended. She then goes around telling people her gift was "not good enough" for me.
6) Tells me she’s planning on renting a car since she won’t have one. She nicely offers to upgrade to a bigger car for all the girls to fit, then behind my back she complains and uses this against me.
7) She is a singer who used to have her own jazz band as a fun hobby. She offers to sing in my wedding. My husband and I reluctantly agreed– we were hoping that giving her some of the spotlight would make her happier about being in the wedding. She excitedly sends an email to the band letting them know she will be singing. I told her she can sing as much or as little as she wants and of course she WANTS to have the spotlight so she sings, but that doesn’t keep her from complaining about it later.
Asks my cousin’s husband to get water from her van and then complains and bitches that it’s his fault that her car battery died (she had keyless entry and all she had to do was open her key case and open the door). There was no jump starting involved at all.
9) Tries to get everyone to feel sorry for her. Lays a huge guilt trip on the entire bridal party saying she’s doing "all the work" when in fact she spent the week leading up to the wedding watching west wing on her Dad’s living room floor while me and my husband were bridal planning without her.
10) Complains and bitches that she is spending tons of money on the wedding when she wasn’t spending anymore than anyone else. Her Dad even paid for her plane ticket so that she could spend time with him, and she left the night of the wedding so she didn’t have to pay for a hotel room.
11) She is the only bridesmaid I’m on rocky terms with leading up to the wedding. I ask her to keep our problems between us and not involve others in order to have a nice wedding and keep this drama out. She agrees to keep it just between us, but then behind my back goes ahead and breaks that agreement.
12) She has been dying her hair red ever since I can remember knowing her and tries to make it seem like I made her dye her hair red.
13) She threw a parking ticket at me after she had been drinking a bit the night of my wedding and said, "this year has been all about you!!!"
13) She offers to help, but there are always strings attached. She helps to get attention and she holds it over people’s heads. My husband thinks she is an attention seeker and cannot stand the sight of her. We have been friends since we were Freshman in high school. I met her in theater class. So, I always held on to her as a result of this longevity. But, want to know what others would do…
I fully admit I had moments where wedding stress got the better of me since I planned the whole wedding by myself while my Mom was not feeling well, but this bridesmaid was ADDING to my stress!
Interesting advice from Jane. As the groom I can say that me and my wife both have very fond memories of our wedding. It was a truly beautiful and magical wedding ceremony. Although there were moments of stress, we are both grateful for the experience. One of the most amusing memories is laughing about this bridesmaid’s jealous drama queen behavior. Sometimes mishaps can become funny memories. I think what this posting on yahoo answers is about is whether or not to let the red head, who has made some attempts to rekindle the friendship, back into her life. My advice is a resounding no, but sometimes my wife has weak moments where she wonders if she should bring Ms. Red Head back especially with the pressure of having mutual friends. It’s only natural that she has moments of doubt while missing aspects of the friendship. Also, the whole point of using yahoo answers is to get objective advice and fresh opinions. You could theoretically respond to every single posting, "why does the opinion of a group of people online matter?" If that’s true, then why does Yahoo Answers even exist?