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Teenagers – what are you going to do with your life?

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Teenagers have a very different view on life to adults. Adults
seem to want to stop you having fun. They are very quick to tell
you that you can’t do this or you can’t do that and that you
can’t be what you dream to be when you grow up and leave school.

Adults are partly right. They know that there is a cost to
living. They know that you have to find money to pay for food,
clothing and accommodation. And they ‘think’ they know that the
chances of you becoming famous, for example, are slim.

What do you want to do when you are older? Many teenagers tell
me that they want to be an actress, a doctor, a lawyer, a
motocross champion, a professional football player, a pop star,
a computer programmer, a pilot, a soldier, a racing driver or an
astronomer. Someone even told me they wanted to become a
magician.

Not many people tell me that they want to work in a hotel, work
in an office, pick fruit or vegetables, cook food, repair cars,
maintain roads or perform one of the hundreds of jobs that the
majority of people do each and every day to keep a roof over
their heads.

So what happened to all of those ‘everyday’ people, did they
have the same dreams as you?

Yes, most people dream of great things when they are a teenager
but very few go on to achieve them. What can you learn from them
that will stop the same thing happening to you?

The first thing that you need to appreciate is that success does
NOT just happen to you. There is a lot of hard work and effort
that goes in to every success story. You will not just stumble
across success, or become a pop star, simply because you want to
be one.

Speak to any successful person and they will all tell you the
same thing – you need to have goals. You need to know exactly
what you want, not just some vague notion about the ‘lifestyle’
that accompanies this dream. You need a main goal and also lots
of smaller goals – things that you have to achieve on the way to
achieving the big one.

You need to discover what skills or knowledge that you need to
be able to do the thing that you want to do. You need to find
out if there is a qualification that you need to have to gain
you entry into that profession.

If you want to be a singer it takes more than the ability to
sing. You are competing against thousands of other singers, many
of which have been singing from an early age and take lessons
with professional voice coaches several times per week. They
practice seven nights per week and already perform in front of
small audiences and enter talent contests as often as they can.
Are you doing this?

If you want to be a motocross champion it takes more than the
ability to ride a bike. You are competing against thousands of
other amateurs like yourself who have been riding motocross
bikes from the age of four and have been competing almost every
weekend for years. They really know how to ride a bike. They
have put in the time to develop and hone their skills and their
parents are fully behind them buying them the best equipment and
travelling to new meetings to put them up against faster riders.
These people are very fast. Have you put the same time in at the
same level?

I am not trying to put you off. I want you to wake up to the
fact that if you are not already practicing and competing at the
peak level of your dream activity then you need to start damn
quick or accept that someone else is going to live your dream
and not you.

What you need to do to become the person in your dream is to
work out the difference between your life now and what it is you
need to be the person in your dreams.

You need to work out what skills you need and how you are going
to achieve them. You need to work out what knowledge you need
and where you are going to get it. You need to work out where
you are going to find the time to do this and how it is going to
be paid for. You need to ask yourself if you are prepared to put
in the hard work and long hours that are required to get you to
where you want to be.

Many of the best actors and actresses in the country went to a
highly competitive stage school to learn their craft. Students
of these schools have to work long hours and extremely hard just
to survive, never mind stand out as a future star. But stage
school doesn’t even begin there. Entry to the best academies is
competitive and you need to prove to them that you have ‘what it
takes’ just to get in. You need to have been performing in plays
and stage shows prior to applying. You need to show that you
have a track record of excellence in acting. Can you prove this?

On your way to your dream position you need to LEARN all of the
things that will be necessary when you are in that position.

You need to work backwards from your dream and calculate all the
steps required to get to where you want to be. A lawyer, for
example, needs a law degree. Depending where you intend to study
places can be very competitive so you need to have good school
or college grades prior to getting in to university. Don’t think
that you can just turn on your school work in the last couple of
years prior to university – you need to work hard at school in
all your subjects, in all your year groups, to achieve the
required grades.

So, if you still want to live your dream and you are prepared to
put in all the hard work and effort to get you to where you want
to be then I wish you good luck.

But consider one thing, if you are not going to put in all of
this hard work or you mistakenly still think that it is still
just going to happen to you, what are you going to end up doing
to provide you with the money you need to live? Probably the
same thing as most people in their routine jobs.

Start to enjoy learning. Learn the things that you are
interested in. Find out how to improve your learning to make it
more useful to you. Become an expert in whatever field you want
to excel in. Set yourself some goals and start today.

Oh yes, and the person that told me that they wanted to become a
magician has now been making a good living that way for over 10
years. He has performed on more than one occasion to Prince
Charles, the future King of England. He has also performed for a
host of other celebrities and even topped the bill on New Year’s
Eve at the ‘6 star’ BURJ AL ARAB hotel in Dubai.

Live the dream

Max Wiseman
http://www.articlesbase.com/education-articles/teenagers-what-are-you-going-to-do-with-your-life-1153.html

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Published 31st January 2010

5 Responses to “Teenagers – what are you going to do with your life?”

  1. seanpopklorn1 says:

    how do you stay involved in your teenagers life while they go off to college and start out on their own?They i
    first time at college ,have a decent relationship aside from him thinking i am to controlloing,Honor student,likes to party,has a girlfriend,knows it all,plays life to the limit

  2. prettylade says:

    I try to send letters every week with a couple dollars in it. I also know that this is their time to "spread their wings" and I’m willing to sit back and wait for the time they realize that I really do know what I’m talking about. Remember how it was when you were that age and wanted to get "freedom". Sadly, we figure out too late what we had. Be ready for the times when they need to connect and relish that time. It may be sparse but make it quality.
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  3. tracyalls1980 says:

    It’s time for you to let him live his own life. He’s going off to college. You need to cut the apron strings. He’s growing up.
    You can call him on the weekends to say hi and see how things are going but make sure you don’t call every day. You have to let him go. He needs to experience life and take responsibility for all his actions weather they be good or bad. I know its hard to let your baby go but its what we mothers go through.
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  4. emma12704 says:

    just stay out of his lyfe for a while. let him do his own thing. just call him once or twice every month or whatever
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  5. helphelp says:

    Keep in touch. Call him often to ask how he is doing. Visit him as often too. Your son is a very good boy and will not do something stupid. So be cool about it.
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