Comments on: Birthdays = depressing, for me anyway. Anyone else feel the same way?

By: I'm Confused

I'm Confused — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 06:05:59 +0000

I am going into the hot tub with wine. You can join me if you wish.
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By: kmoney2008

kmoney2008 — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 05:38:59 +0000

Happy birthday! When I have nothing on my birthday I am thinking my birth day was just a joke, a mistake. When they saw me for the first time they must have said oh another baby wow. When I was little I had a lot friends at my birthday parties. My first birthday party was at the house and the only thing I can remember was that we filled the house with balloons and we also put them on the walls. It was fun. The second birthday party we went to McDonald's. And that was pretty much it for birthday parties. I went over to this one friend's house for his birthday party, but he left a note on the door saying that his party was at Chuck E. Cheeses. I didn't know which Chuck E. Cheese he was at because there are Chuck E. Cheese restaurants all over the place. When I became a teenager everybody pretty much ignored the fact that I had a birthday. One time I got $100 from a relative, but nothing else. As a young adult my parents take me to a restaurant for my birthday. Sometimes when I nag them that it's my birthday they tell me to grow up. A birthday is a celebration that you're here living and one year older from drinking. Haha.
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By: Alli8833

Alli8833 — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 04:57:59 +0000

Your friends and family sound a bit cold I guess… can’t do anything about your family, but you might want to either find better friends that suit your needs better, or expect less from the friends you have. But in the end, I think you just need to chill out and place less importance on your birthday. Not necessarily because it’s normal for people to ignore it, but because you seem to be largely surrounded by a family who doesn’t place much importance on them. That isn’t very uncommon. Lots of people are somewhat indifferent to bdays, especially as they get older.
As for the friends your own age… obviously the level of your friendship with them just doesn’t inspire them to do much for you on you bday. I don’t if they’re all just a bunch of jerks, but I kind of doubt it. It’s possible that it’s something about you that’s making them not care too much about you and your bday, and to focus on other friends more. Could it be your apparently sullenness? It comes out pretty clearly in your message here. I think if you cheered up a bit, you might find people more willing to celebrate you!
Aside from that… don’t worry too much about it. 15 years from now, you might not even bother mentioning to your co-workers that it’s your bday, and going out for dinner with loved ones will be the most you even want to do on that day!
PS – I never once had a bday party growing up. I’d have a cake until I was maybe 12, and one or two friends over for pizza and a video. And that suited me fine! I think people just make too much of bdays these days!
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