 When I was a child, my mother would send out invitations to all of my friends, and organise a party, and buy a cake, and make party bags for all of the guests, and then at my birthday party, there would be a point when the lights would dim, and a candle-lit cake would be coming towards me, with the whole room singing ‘Happy Birthday’. Now, I’m 17, and I can’t find the perfect friends. The person who I love, most of all, is my sister. I find her so much fun to be with, and talk to. Everything is so easy. Now, every year, on my birthday, I never have a party. I don’t want one. Even though I have friends. My parents never buy me a cake, even though I drop hints occasionally, that I would like one. I usually go out for a meal with my parents, but they treat it like just any other meal that we go out for. The attention is never on me anymore, like it used to be. It was a friend’s birthday about a few weeks ago. SORRY! I’m just rambling on about birthdays and being loved by friends and family.. When it is the birthday of someone who I share a special bond with, I like to try to make it special, because I know how it feels to feel the way I do on my birthday, and I wouldn’t want them to feel that way. I’ve noticed that I cry on my birthday, most years. PRIVATELY, of course, and quietly. Anyways, I was wondering if anyone else feels the same about this… Oh yeah, and presents usually annoy me. -If I ask for a present from my relatives, I feel like they don’t mean it. In fact, I KNOW that they don’t mean it, because we barely know each other. -Also, I’d prefer clothes, but because I like to buy my own clothes, I can’t ask for money, because it’s rude. -If I tell my friend a million times that I don’t want a present, she gets me one that is just going to clutter up my small bedroom. I’d rather have something that MEANS something, because I don’t understand why I’d want a bear or a dvd.
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Your friends and family sound a bit cold I guess… can’t do anything about your family, but you might want to either find better friends that suit your needs better, or expect less from the friends you have. But in the end, I think you just need to chill out and place less importance on your birthday. Not necessarily because it’s normal for people to ignore it, but because you seem to be largely surrounded by a family who doesn’t place much importance on them. That isn’t very uncommon. Lots of people are somewhat indifferent to bdays, especially as they get older.
As for the friends your own age… obviously the level of your friendship with them just doesn’t inspire them to do much for you on you bday. I don’t if they’re all just a bunch of jerks, but I kind of doubt it. It’s possible that it’s something about you that’s making them not care too much about you and your bday, and to focus on other friends more. Could it be your apparently sullenness? It comes out pretty clearly in your message here. I think if you cheered up a bit, you might find people more willing to celebrate you!
Aside from that… don’t worry too much about it. 15 years from now, you might not even bother mentioning to your co-workers that it’s your bday, and going out for dinner with loved ones will be the most you even want to do on that day!
PS – I never once had a bday party growing up. I’d have a cake until I was maybe 12, and one or two friends over for pizza and a video. And that suited me fine! I think people just make too much of bdays these days!
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Happy birthday! When I have nothing on my birthday I am thinking my birth day was just a joke, a mistake. When they saw me for the first time they must have said oh another baby wow. When I was little I had a lot friends at my birthday parties. My first birthday party was at the house and the only thing I can remember was that we filled the house with balloons and we also put them on the walls. It was fun. The second birthday party we went to McDonald’s. And that was pretty much it for birthday parties. I went over to this one friend’s house for his birthday party, but he left a note on the door saying that his party was at Chuck E. Cheeses. I didn’t know which Chuck E. Cheese he was at because there are Chuck E. Cheese restaurants all over the place. When I became a teenager everybody pretty much ignored the fact that I had a birthday. One time I got $100 from a relative, but nothing else. As a young adult my parents take me to a restaurant for my birthday. Sometimes when I nag them that it’s my birthday they tell me to grow up. A birthday is a celebration that you’re here living and one year older from drinking. Haha.
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I am going into the hot tub with wine. You can join me if you wish.
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